They say “if you truly want to know yourself, look at your five closest friends” because you are a reflection of the people you spend most of your time with. Whether you like it or not, like them or not. Friends can do two things, either push us forward or, pull us back. Cos you see as a young basketball player, I never really felt the need to learn how to jump until all of my friends started to dunk, and as a young student, I only really started to get into trouble in class when all my friends started to flunk, think about. When you got your results who were the first persons you ask? So how did you do in math, English and art? And you know we always assume our grades were ok, so long we got more As than our mates.  But when it came to getting into college, did all of you guys get accepted into the same school? See, that’s why I think it’s important to have friends with benefit, because if they don’t add to your life they subtract from it, if they don’t do anything at all, that’s just as bad because “breaking even isn’t an exact profit”. Listen, as humans we look around our surroundings and learn to adapt to it, so if you surround yourselves with bombs, what do you think would be the outcome? You end up full of things that aren’t nice, cos life is too short to live for other people’s ideas, and that’s the harsh reality. Now whenever you want to use the word friend, make sure you add air quotes like this {“ “}, because apparently I have 2,289 friends on Instagram, 450 on twitter and about 2000 on Facebook, and one thing signifying is that, all they ever do is like my picture.
      So wait, I’m I implying you should only be friends with those who can help you? Yes I am. People that respect your identity, the decisions you choose to make indefinitely. People that can help you grow, because true friends are people that benefit you emotionally, spiritually, mentally, and regularly. Not a friend that calls you for fun, and  believes you need to get drunk just because you enjoy yourselves, not one that have sex and laughs at your virginity, because you believe in integrity. Not a friend that smokes, and make the joke out of you when you are opposed to conforming, although they know you’re an athlete and understands how it affects your performance. Not a friend that puts you down 9 out of 10 times whenever you are in a crowd, but then becomes your buddy when no one else is around, that’s not a true friend. But at the same time remember, one hand washes the other before they can both wash the face, so before you can expect good friends, you have to learn to be one yourself. And that involves having morals that you stand by and stick to, cos as Malcolm X said “a man that stands for nothing, will fall for anything”. So there’s nothing wrong in having friends with benefits, so ultimately both of you can find ways to benefit each other.



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